Erotica by Shannon

As I was packing up the back of my White Mazda after the previous night of play with my lover R, and putting the sheets in their bag, a curious question popped up in my head.  Is car sex worth it? And I smiled because, for me - and while I cannot speak for my lover, although I'm sure he'd 100% agree - for me, car sex is worth it - 10x and more.  It's portable.  Convenient at any given spur of the moment.  It's sexy.  And playful.  Most importantly, it connects me with my lover in a way that the bedroom does not.  We meet at a local Panera or Dunkin.   I hand my key over to him, and he takes it from there as far as destination goes; somewhere where there are hiking trails and most often a gorgeous sunset.  My part's easy - I break out the car sex supplies from the large Rubbermaid container that I keep in the back of my car.  Sheets, coconut oil, baby wipes, great music, food, sometimes black nylons, and the mood. The closeness of our bod...

I cannot stress how important it is to be interdependent on your partner in a long-term relationship. The word "interdependence" (as I interpret it) means that you both maintain your independence while being together in a committed relationship.  You both have things you like to do  together. You both have things you like to do apart.  And then you both have things you like to do for a few days apart. Why is interdependence necessary? Because you and your partner both stay true to who you are without losing that sense of who you are in the middle of all the stuff that a long-term relationship can bring to the forefront.  Interdependence makes me feel sexy again because it has me put myself in others' shoes, and allows me to see myself as they see me.  Interdependence brings me confidence, self-assurance, and self-esteem.  Time apart (as the old saying goes) brings people closer together. It makes the heart fonder because it allows space for you and them...

Are you in a long-term relationship with a Taurus man? I am. After learning more about his astrological sign, I discovered 7 main ways I consistently use to keep him interested in me and around me.  These 7 methods require stability, trust, and just a tiny bit of romance.  These aren't mind games or ways that will 'trap' your Taurus man into staying with you; instead, these 7 ways will ensure you stay on top of your game as well as ensure that your Taurus man sees the value in you, therefore making him realize how important you are to him.  Remember that while reading the list below, these 7 ways work for me and my relationship. It's essential to find a method of applying them that works for you and your relationship, not to copy exactly what's here.  Enjoy and remember to have fun and not take it so seriously. -Shannon 1.  Be a steady presence:   Your  Taurus man values reliability and consistency. He'll appreciate you when you're dependable, i...

Are you dating a Taurus man? What I mean by that is a Taurus man has the astrological birthdates of April 20 - May 20. And Taurus men are known to be dependable, grounded, secure, ruled by the planet Venus - the planet of love, beauty, and luxury.  Taurus men are drawn to the finer things in life. They love their homes, are creatures of comfort, enjoy being spoiled and taken care of, and are one of the best lovers in the astrological chart; they will usually never say no to sex, unless they are heavily weighed down by something that's bothering them and is on their minds.  They enjoy their partners to be self-sufficient, are drawn to and turned on by partners who continue to self-educated themselves in whatever interests them and love great conversation. Taurus men thrive on partners who always want to keep themselves in top condition - whether that be with physical exercise or keeping themselves looking good with clothing that's classical and up-to-date yet not overly outland...

Hi, it's been a bit since I've written here, and I thought it would be good to share  what's been happening with R and me. The news headline below inspired me.  May you leave with a seed planted.  "Rosalynn Carter, who as first lady worked tirelessly on behalf of mental health reform and professionalized the role of the president's spouse, died Sunday, November 19, 2023, at 96", according to the Carter Center.  "Rosalynn was my equal partner in everything I ever accomplished," her husband, former President Jimmy Carter, said. " She gave me wise guidance and encouragement when I needed it. As long as Rosalynn was in the world, I always knew somebody loved and supported me."

  Hey there. 🙂 Would you agree that if something isn't great or mediocre, most people would want to do their best to improve it—especially in their relationships? It's normal that we typically like to ensure that our romantic relationships last and improve over time.  Yet, I have a secret for you: even if you constantly improve your relationship, you might feel increasingly annoyed and less in love without practicing the necessary skills to manage your expectations within your relationship realistically.  Manage Expectations by Changing Your Thoughts How you think about your partner can significantly impact your relationship experience. And so it's essential to think about – and possibly change – your thought patterns about your partner. For instance, when you hit a low in the relationship, it's not uncommon for you to harbor negative, critical thoughts about your partner.  You may think your partner's selfish or doesn't care about you.  You may think your part...

With a little effort and determination, everyone can spice up their relationship—no matter how long they are together. And do you want to know the best part? The more often you add spice, the easier and more natural it becomes for both of you. Here are four things to know to keep your relationship alive.  The Four Things.  1. Nurturing Relationships Takes Watering.  We grow up in a world that tells us that if we are the right person – love, attraction, and sex are easily attainable, like magic. Yet, the reality is that while your social media feed is filled with images of people seemingly having perfect relationships and sex lives, many relationship and sex therapists see what others don't see: real-life couples struggling with intimacy and connection. These couples feel like something is missing because they're having sex—they stopped looking at each other lovingly like they did when they first began dating. Know that nothing is wrong with your relationshi...

Have you been with your partner for a while and want to know how to rekindle sexual desire in your relationship?  I'll give you a tip—it has less to do with figuring out or adding fancy new (often unrealistic) positions and more to do with working your brain. At the beginning of every relationship, it's all to do with fireworks and lightning – as soon as you touch each other, your appetite for sex renews. Yet gradually and subtly (unless proactively nurtured by both partners), these intense feelings of sexual desire tend to pitter-patter away.  What remains is a deep bond with lots of emotional intimacy and a sense of safety and attachment.  It's easy to take this stage of your relationship as a sign that something's off; you've fallen out of love, or perhaps you're not meant to be. I want you to know there's nothing wrong with your relationship just because you'd rather Netflix and chill than have sex. It means you're comfortable with your partner a...

The Why Did you know that The Journal of Sexual Medicine revealed that women worldwide had masturbated at least once for one reason or another- a whopping 94.5%? And most of those women masturbate while in a relationship.  One in four do so up to three times a week to help with sexual desire, relaxation, sleep, and stress reduction. Almost one in five prefer going solo than being stimulated by their partner, and for the five percent of women who’ve never masturbated, their two reasons were  ‘lack of sexual desire’  and  ‘it’s a partner-only thing.’  Dr. Andrea Burri of the Institute for Sex Counseling and Sexual Sciences, Switzerland, says,   For many women, masturbation does not represent a partner substitute for seeking   sexual pleasure; instead, it’s a stress coping and relaxation strategy. Not all women get off with vaginal penetration by a penis, and often an excellent solo masturbation session can bring you the ultimate chill factor and the abil...

Do you often wonder if sex and stress are friends or foes? At first glance, the answer might seem simple – stress kills desire. But I can tell you it’s a little more complicated than that. And even if stress does kick your libido to the curb, there are many ways to manage stress and have a healthy sex life while keeping your connection strong within your relationship.  Sex and Stress= Increased Desire Sex and stress – are two key elements you hear about all the time, and usually, it’s about how stress negatively impacts sex drive. But for others, it’s about how stress propels them  towards  sex.  The reasons for stress increasing sex drive are several. We all have a way of relating to people in our lives. For some of you, your way of relating to people in times of stress has evolved to create a desire for sexual connection.  This means the more stressed you are, the more passion and arousal you’ll want and can experience.  When you’re in a relationship...