A Weekend Away

I cannot stress how important it is to be interdependent on your partner in a long-term relationship.

The word "interdependence" (as I interpret it) means that you both maintain your independence while being together in a committed relationship. 

You both have things you like to do together.

You both have things you like to do apart. 

And then you both have things you like to do for a few days apart.

Why is interdependence necessary?

Because you and your partner both stay true to who you are without losing that sense of who you are in the middle of all the stuff that a long-term relationship can bring to the forefront. 

Interdependence makes me feel sexy again because it has me put myself in others' shoes, and allows me to see myself as they see me. 

Interdependence brings me confidence, self-assurance, and self-esteem. 

Time apart (as the old saying goes) brings people closer together. It makes the heart fonder because it allows space for you and them to recognize what's vital for you as separate individuals in the relationship and as a couple. Time apart allows you and them not to take each other for granted - it enables you to appreciate. 

For many years, I sacrificed myself for my partner, and for many relationships, lost who I was in the process. 

For the first time in many years, I'm with someone who understands interdependence and is strong and confident in who he is, so that I can be strong and confident in who I am. 

I do not need to sacrifice myself for him, and as I understand more about his nuances, it's easier to explore myself and voice my wants and needs without worrying about judgment. 

This past weekend I went away. 

Being with a group of ladies who are 100% sure in themselves was uplifting. 

I reconnected with my inner confident sexy again; walked on some nice hiking trails, stayed at a beautiful B&B, and slept. 

Interdependence is a strong, long-term relationship, and I highly recommend it.